'Initially, I didn't believe it': Wife questions husband's motives for wanting to split their lottery winnings with his best friend

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    Font - Posted by u/throwawaylucx 9 hours ago AITA For not wanting to split my jackpot win with my husbands friend? I (F30) played the lottery for the first time last year when everyone was talking about the Powerball jackpot. Since then I've played casually, only spending a few dollars a week. I occasionally won a few bucks and never really expected to win anything big but it was nice to dream as I had a ton of debt and have been struggling a lot.
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    Font - Fast forward to a few months ago (won't say the month for privacy) I checked the winning numbers one night against my ticket and it matched with my numbers perfectly. Initially I didn't believe it and thought there had to be a mistake so I told my husband (M35) and we checked it like a dozen times and I was right, we won. It's Life changing, multi generational, f you money.
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    Font - We instantly agreed to keep the news to ourselves and wait a few months before we did anything. The past few months have been an incredible high, filled with disbelief and though it's been difficult, we have managed not to make any large purchases or change our lifestyle. We fantasized about what to do with our money but the time to claim is drawing near so we have begun having more practical discussions about how to claim it and what to do with it.
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    Font - While discussing, my husband "Adam" brought up that he thinks it'll be a good idea to split the money with his best friend/ business partner "Tim". Tim and Adam have been friends since they were in middle school and have done everything together ever since. Together they've started businesses, work together, invested money, moved to the same town and have often dreamed about our families making it big together. Since we have take risks together and are so close, Adam feels it's fair to gi
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    Font - I however feel it's risky to share that we have come into this money with them because Tim's family tends to be more flashy and like showing off and I don't fully trust that they will keep it quiet or modest enough to not raise suspicion. This is important because I've seen community members harass and attack people with far less money just because they feel entitled. This could jeopardize our safety so I want to avoid it if at all possible. Also I'm not really comfortable with his plan t
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    Font - Adam thinks I'm being selfish and he wont enjoy our new found wealth if his friend isn't living the same lifestyle but I think we could find a way to later give them some money after figuring out a way to explain how we came into money without telling them we won lottery (no idea how to do that yet). Anyway, AITA for not wanting to tell them we won the lottery and split the money? Am I selfish? Edit: Thank you all for your input. I think a few things are clear now to me. 1) absolutely a h
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    Smile - OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the ae: I don't want to split the winnings with friend and I might be selfish because if it.
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    Rectangle - Alarming_Reply_6286 9 hr. ago Pooperintendant [69] NTA Call an attorney & a financial advisor. Keep the money out of your husband's business. 17.9k Reply Share
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    Font - zippy_zaboo 9 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [48] NTA. If you want to buy Tim a new Accord, go nuts. But giving him 1/3 of your winnings is insane. TALK TO A LAWYER ASAP. If you're not already talking to one, you're doing it wrong.\ Also, get the money somewhere that your husband CANNOT decide to move it without your permission and knowledge. 5.7k Reply Share ●●●
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    Font - throwawaylucx OP. 9 hr. ago In process of finding lawyers. 2/3 of the money is a lot even after the taxes I estimate. I'm not worried about giving too much away. Just worried about people finding out. 4 1.8k Reply Share
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    Font - BubblyNumber5518 9 hr. ago I'd be worried that my husband and Tim were romantically involved. Wanting to gift him that kind of money smacks of "in richer and poorer" sentiment. Reply Share 2.9k
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    Font - Skizzybee 9 hr. ago Pooperintendant [69] Putting it into an LLC where you can be voted out would end badly. Your husband is about to divorce you. Prepare yourself. Reply Share 1.5k throwawaylucx OP. 7 hr. ago Good point. Didn't even think about possibly being voted out. I clearly have a lot to learn. 975 Reply Share
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    Font - mdthomas 9 hr. ago edited 9 hr. ago Prime Ministurd [496] If you split it in half with your husband, he can split his half with his friend. You get 50%, he and his friend each get 25%. ΝΤΑ 893 Reply Share
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    Font - CosmicStarchild7 9 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [5] NTA! I find it exceptionally bizarre that your husband wants to make plans with your lottery winnings for his BF. Vehemently bizarre. Best friend, business partner or not.... why does your husband even think HIS friend should have YOUR money? Smh. NTA! 759 Reply Share
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    Font - mac-train 9 hr. ago YTA for not sharing it with me TBH 585 throwawaylucx OP 9 hr. ago Lol Reply Share 239 Reply Share
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    Font - Wandering_aimlessly9 · 9 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [10] NTA and do NOT add the partner to the money. I question their relationship if he is wanting to give 1/3 of "fox you" money to a friend and such. That doesn't sound like a friend. Don't get me wrong. If my husband and I won this 1 billion jackpot we would definitely give to friends and family. A million each would be sufficient for them to each live wonderful lives. But 1/3...sounds more suspect than a million or two each. Maybe your
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    Font - pinelogr 9 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [6] Nta, in fact I think because of this you should even leave your husband out of it! For sure he would have just given his friend 1/3 if he had won! But I get if you don't want to ruin your marriage so maybe both sign a paper that says half is his and half is yours, neither can claim the other's half and he can split his with his friend any way he wants. But 1/3 means he gets part of your half and he is not YOUR friend. 365 Reply Share ●●●
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    Font - throwawaylucx OP. 9 hr. ago My husband and I have been married nearly a decade and even though he makes much more than me we've always put all our money in the same account and shared ever since. He has never felt more entitled to our money so I feel it's unfair. I'm just trying to protect our privacy and sanity. Reply Share 213 ●●●
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    Font - AHOY Aromatic-Objective54 9 hr. ago NTA... a third?!!!! Your husband has lost the plot 283 Reply Share

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